Our world is not the whole universe and we are not the center of it (contrary to popular belief).
And yet we act like it, making our lives more complicated than it should be, thinking it can never be brought to an end.
Our world(s) is just one of many specks and as Henry David Thoreau said the universe is wider than our view of it.
So, is that the answer - broadening our views in order to understand both the universe and ourselves? If it is, we are not heading into right direction.
Success means different things to different people. There is no single definition of success: for some it is getting a job, for many it is a thick bank account and great car, for some it is getting into university and for some simply having a roof over their head.
As for me definition of success changed over time:
When I was a kid I did not want to be a Louse Lane, I wanted to fly and be a hero ☺.
During school days I wanted to get into cybernetics and invent humanoid robots 😂.
After I graduated I wanted to be the best possible female manager and I was for some time ... Didn't make me happy though.
And now - I just want to do something I love and enjoy and be surrounded with people I love deeply and travel occasionally and explore different worlds. I am getting there...and that is ... success.
Today, a bit different post from me. My son woke up today with acne on his face. Pure, live, drama! He counted seven (luckily small ones)??? I honestly saw just two. I was thinking to myself "stay calm, stay composed...". We had a talk how natural that is, he will grow out of it, no picking and so on. He calmed down. All that time the mood swings lately started to make sense and it finally hit me: puberty!!! So soon? I started to recall "horror" stories of my friends with older children, one describing this period as aliens body snatching your child??!! Baby steps, breathe in and breathe out ....I am freaking out ....breathe...
I've heard a good one the other day:"I cannot see you properly, as you're hidden behind complexes ".
We all have them to some extent: inferiority, superiority, Napoleon, hero, guilt, excellent student ...
As long as we are aware of it, at least to some extent we are ok. But when they consume us in such way we become one ... Houston we have a problem.
Doing things for the benefit of others. Giving a helping hand. That, above all things, makes us human, that capacity for being good.
It seems however, we show true altruism in large numbers only in the time of distress: natural disasters, wars etc. Thereafter we go back to our regular, somewhat selfish same same. And we should not. It does help the giver as well. And when we do help, we should not expect anything in return or do it for marketing purposes. That destroys the whole concept of altruism. It sometimes bites us in the rear as we help the wrong people, but that's on them. Let's continue be good, rather than bitter.
Do we love people or material things? What are we willing to fight for? Family, friends or bank accounts? Is it more important to show off the car we just bought or open our mouth and say please, thank you and hello showing the upbringing and manners? Is our loyalty controlled by opportunity or is it something much stronger? Do we smirk when we meet people or accept them? Who and what we love does tell a lot about us all.
